Author: Beverly B. Palmer, Ph.D.

Expectations You Have About Others

We often hold unspoken expectations for those around us, such as partners or co-workers, leading to disappointment when they are unmet. Instead of complaining, which can harm relationships, expressing observations…
Escaping Expectations Others Put on You

The content discusses the pressure from family, work, and partners regarding expectations. It emphasizes the importance of managing personal reactions to others’ demands and encourages self-approval rather than conforming to…
The Unspoken Vows: Navigating Failed Expectations in Marriage

Marriage is often idealized as the ultimate realization of romantic love, but this perception can lead to disillusionment when unspoken expectations clash with reality. Rigid assumptions about roles, finances, and…
Expectations You Have About Others

We have expectations for everyone in our lives. We may expect our child to get good grades. We may expect our partner to ask if there is anything we need…
Anxiety is Unreasonable Expectations

Worried about what might happen if…? Expecting something bad to happen? Could it be just as possible that everything will be ok? For many of us, anxiety is our default…
The Burden of Pride

Living up to Others’ Expectations of You
The Perfectionist Mandate

“I am a high achiever in everything I do” High achievement is rewarded in our society so it is reasonable that you expect yourself to achieve in all you attempt.…
The Caretaker Contract : “I must always take care of ________.”

The key words are “MUST” and “ALWAYS”. If you take those two words out, you have “I take care of____. Caring for another person can be a deeply rewarding experience.…
The Disappointment Phobia

“I am not a person who disappoints other people.” Most of us see ourselves as responsible people, and our society reinforces this expectation. Sometimes you may inadvertently disappoint someone by…
The Approval Seeker

You don’t always get your expectation for appreciation or approval fulfilled.